Recognizing When It’s Not Time to Make Decisions as an Autistic

There are a lot of things on my mind about my business. Some are questions, some are ideas.

I’m wondering how to respond to comments and people now that my writing is getting more recognized.

I’m contemplating how to make therapy more accessible to people, while still honoring my energy capacity and my financial needs.

I’m debating how I want to shift my schedule now that winter is here with its cooer days (the summer in the desert is like winters elsewhere - I just hole up inside).

I’m wondering if I should finish my book about private practice.

There’s more. But you get the point, there’s a lot. There’s always a lot rattling around in my autistic mind. It’s just how I am.

"A Hyperactive Mind" Acrylic painting by Jackie Schuld

As someone with a hyperactive, hypercreative mind, it’s important to recognize when it is time to make decisions and pursue ideas, and when it is time to let things percolate.

I pay attention to my energy level. If I am feeling tired or like a vacation is needed, that is a clear sign it is not the time to make decisions.

I also listen to my emotions. For instance, feelings of frustration and resentment come up when I think about how to resolve comments from others and such. This is a clear sign my mind and body are not ready to face these with the intention and values that I want.

These indicators - my energy and my emotion, help me know when I need to step away, versus when I need extra assistance.

For instance, if I was feeling enthusiastic to tackle this problem with comments, I would take it to my accountability partners or my consultation group. I would brainstorm with them.

But I don't feel like brainstorming. And so, I know not to force it. To just let things be.

The third thing I pay attention to is the wishful thoughts in my mind. For example, I was recently wishing my vacation would start earlier. This is a definite and clear sign that my mind, body, and soul is ready for a break.

Yes, I have decisions to be made, but it’s important to recognize when is the right time to make them - and now is not it.

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